During a past ministry trip to Hungary, I heard a painfully familiar story. Through a translator, a tearful young woman living near Budapest explained that her Christian husband was angrily demanding her absolute submission. This included, among other things, that she clean their house according to his strict standards and that she engage in sexual acts with him that made her feel uncomfortable and dirty.My Response
This lady was not demanding her rights or trying to be disrespectful. She was a godly, humble woman who obviously wanted to please the Lord. But she had been beaten to a pulp emotionally, and she was receiving little help from her pastor—who was either unwilling or unprepared to confront wife abuse.
Some people really have a big problem with the exposure in this article. Many women know this exists and much worse among Christian husbands and especially pastors. I have heard such, wives young and old have told me, and I have seen it myself,. I usually challenge it and get so much opposition by those men and women who want to distort Christ's love and submission. It is the open secret and yet the secret in the closet. This domestic abuse has no boundaries, no colour bound even. Whit and Black, African, Asian, Caucasian, Chinese, Japanese. Many pastors' and ministers wives live with the Terror at home who is the Angel outside the home. Since they know what they are doing is bad, they stop their wives from talking about it with others! A wife is not a domestic slave neither a sexual slave! Sex is not a tool for abuse or control, no a weapon to strike God's people, women with- Genesis 1:26-28. Men, husbands need to go back to the Altar, repent, seek forgiveness from God and their wives, have a clean slate, and start afresh.
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This White Elephant in the living room.
I think that everyone is redeemable considering the right circumstances, the willingness to acknowledge shortcomings, mistakes, and wrongdoings. The willingness to forgive, not the ability, for it is only God who can give the ability to forgive gross wrongs done to someone or one's depth of hurt or pain. For the Enemy of humankind, the devil is after the family, I mean the family of married people whether in tradition as accepted by culture or norm, in Church marriage. He is after breaking up the marriage, the family. No one really thrives well after a broken marriage; socially, mentally, emotionally, sexually, psychologically, even professionally except by the Grace of God.
On the other hand we should not dismiss facts of abuse or try to wish them away.
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